It’s a delight to tackle those old albums of photo’s and treasures. Once I get the dust bunnies off them I love that first look through the collection. All those wonderful treasures that I felt were important keep, but look at now and wonder “what was I thinking?”
There amongst the photos of my life are all my dear friends from over the years. The ones with whom I had so much in common; I’d shared lots of first’s and made lots of memories and now years later, I scratch my head and wonder where they are?
I used to feel very sad at how friends would come and go from my life. Mum and Grandma always said ….” True friends are like diamonds rich and rare, false friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere.” This didn’t ever explain it well enough for me. Let me share with you now what I really believe to be true. This was sent to me years ago in an email (from a dear old friend Sue Redfern) It struck a chord with me then and reminded me that I’m part of a grand plan and since then I’ve added my own spin to help me understand.
People come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime!
When someone comes into your life for a Reason it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with a guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are!
Then suddenly the relationship will end. It maybe that there is a falling out between you, they may move away, they may die, or they may just walk away for no apparent reason. It’s important to remember its because our need has been met, our desire fulfilled. Their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered, and now it’s time to move on.
Some friends come into your life for a Season because your turn has come to help someone to grow, share and learn. Friends for a season are those friends you gather because of common interests, children and sports, maybe colleagues from work. Because of your shared interests you seem like soulmates and it’s a joy to spend time with them. But only for a season. As your circumstances change, so do the things you have in common and there is a drifting apart. The relationship is no less precious.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build on to have a solid emotional foundation. Lifetime friends live different lives; that from time to time run parallel with ours and allow us to reconnect. We pick up where we left off! Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you learn to use in all your relationships and areas of your life. When I look at photo’s of all my friends from the past I’m sad that I don’t see them , but also very grateful. They have added all the dimensions that make me, ME!
Okay so I have had a play around with the blog. I've added those articles from the newsletter that are from my heart. I've worked out how to add photo's and so now its all systems go!
I have the shortcut on my desktop to streamline the time from idea to writing. I've worked out how to rough draft and if i need to , go back and edit.
Why Wig Wam for a gooses bridle do you ask? Its a funny old saying that my Gram used to say as an answer to our constant questions of "What are you doing Gram?" one of those nonsensical answers that really mean " I'm not sure I'm in the middle of the creative process!" or even just "I'm doing a whole lot of nothing!"
I miss my gram often and wish I could go back and pay more attention to the things she said. How can you know as a little person what will be the most important things to remember. I do remember her heating our socks on cold mornings in the wood combustion heater. Serving us sneaky portions of doorstop toast with cream and sugar sprinkled on it. Helping her write cheques when we shopped. She'd write the numbers then i'd write the words for the numbers. I thought it was for me to practice, but now I know it was probably because it wasn't her strongest skill. I was only about eight or nine then. What must the bank have thought of those round childish letters.
“It’s alright for you, you’re artistic. I haven’t got a creative bone in my body!”
If we had a dollar for every time we hear that at daisy chain we’d be rich!
But creativity isn’t about having to create that perfect scrap layout or card. We all have imaginations, we all work with the same products, and although our photos may vary they are all of a similar theme.
So why can one person seem to create from absolutely nowhere a thing of absolute uniqueness and beauty, while others struggle to find colours that “go”?
According to recent research into explaining creativity (Hidden secrets of the creative mind; Time Magazine January 16 2006) it has less to do with a sudden burst of magical inspiration and more with the kind of problem solving skills you would use to get yourself out of a traffic jam. Creativity is not one brilliant flash but a chain reaction of many tiny sparks while executing an idea.
We’ve all heard it before that it just fell into place! Like a domino effect. So to use a scrapbook layout as an example the steps would be deciding on the project, choosing your photo’s, matching the theme with the patterned papers, then coordinating plain cardstock. Crop and mount your photos, build the foundation to the page, place your photos then add embellishments, and ephemera and “voila” a layout emerges. Not planned, but grown from lots of little decisions.
Insight is another form of inspiration where you may have been thinking about a particular project, considering and dismissing many ideas until at an inopportune time when your thoughts are elsewhere you will suddenly think of a solution. When we take time off from working on a problem we change what we are doing and can activate different areas of our brain. If the answer wasn’t in the area of the brain we were using it might be in another! Hence those bursts of brilliance as you zone out watching TV , soaking in the tub or drifting off to sleep. Mine happen in the few moments before I completely wake in the morning .
Collaboration can also get those creative juices flowing. Daisy chain has such a wonderful sharing culture that an idea from someone in our team will snowball right though all of us ( and we love it) That’s why you’ll often see us sitting in at each others classes! Just sitting with a group of papercrafters in a workshop can give that one seed of an idea that will grow and grow! I’ve always found this to be helpful for when you’re feeling stale and need fresh inspiration!
So my advise to turn yourself into a creative genius.
Stop trying so hard. Relax and enjoy it.
Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes, art is knowing which ones to keep. Don’t be too hard on yourself!
Be systematic about the process, it really will evolve by itself. Build the project step by step. Move onto something else if you feel “blocked”
Spend time with likeminded people to share ideas. Enthusiasm is infectious.
Just do it! While you wait for the lightning bolt of inspiration, you are wasting precious creating time. Enjoy!
Love Linda
From Linda with Love. September /October
On our recent camping trip I had the task of tuning the radio in to get the best reception so Russell (“It’s good to be the king!”) could hear the lions game on Saturday night.
It made me nostalgic for those times when tuning the radio was a lot more every day. I don’t think any of our radios in our cars or home requires tuning! It’s all automatic now. But remember the first portable music devices way before MP3’s or ipods? Those little transistor radio’s and the never-ending battle to get tuned into the station.
Remember holding it to you ear! It was even worse at night when there seemed to be so many more radio stations to sort through. And just when you thought you had the best reception it’d suddenly disappear and you’d madly scramble the dial searching for it only to find an even better reception just a little farther along the dial!
It’s a little bit like life really. Just when we think we’re on the right path we get bumped and lose our direction, only to discover that we were on the wrong path anyway and that a little further on a new and better path is waiting for us. So good in fact that you can handle a few bumps of the “transistor” and still stay firmly on the “station” without a hiccup.
And it’s not by accident that you need to have those bumps! That’s how you discover, on reflection, that you weren’t really tuned in after all.
Scrap booking has helped me to tune in. I’m revisiting times in my life when I thought I was on the station, but really I was struggling with reception. Now I’m tuned in to what will be remembered and what won’t. What’s important and what’s not. The Photo’s I take now are thoughtful. The stories to my layouts are full of detail. I relish the time with my family and don’t yearn for “time out”.
Today we did lunch and the movies. My biggest boy painted the back deck. Middle boy is delighted that his cat caught a mouse and is now a working cat! (A light moment in his busy year 12 schedule) Littlest boy wanted to learn how to iron a button up shirt, but quickly refused to practice on any more shirts in the ironing pile. ( Smart kid) The King is battling the remote control on the TV. Football on two channels oh no! And I’m savouring being in tune with the moment. I think I need to do a layout on radios!
From Linda May/June 22/4/06
Some of you may know that my family has recently become the proud owners of a boat. Yes we are fisher folk! My husband is over the moon and it’s fabulous to see my fella’s so enthusiastic! It’s certainly taken our family time to whole new level. I’ve hardly had to bait a hook yet! Don’t they look after me!
There isn’t a lot of fish being caught that is edible and each time we venture out and return empty handed the price per kilo of the fish we’ll eventually catch goes higher and higher; but how can you put a price on the precious time with our boys?
In the blink of an eye they’ll be grown and have families of their own.
I’m scrap booking those early years at the moment from when they were babes and fresh into our hearts. I get a little misty eyed and wish I could go back and blow one more raspberry on a little round tummy!
I sit in our little boat and listen to them talking to their Dad and learning of all the things they need to know to be men. It’s a lovely peaceful time to sit and reflect on where we’re going and we’re we’ve been. I’m taking lots of photos and even keeping a little journal of these times. That’s what scrap booking means to me! Taking a small slice or glimpse of your life at a particular time and recording it in all its richness so that in years to come you can instantly be back there and savor the moment!
Maybe I can exaggerate the size of the fish just a little!
Ta Ta for Now
Linda
What a handsome boy!Darling Ben trying hard to look "bad"!
I'm not sure about this blog! Its probably a little more frustrating than I thought. I've so many things spinning in my head to say and my life just seems to get so busy that I'm not having time to sit here quietly and compose.
I keep thinking of and rejecting heaps of little juicy morsels. I want to rewrite my thoughts on friends for a reason a season and a lifetime.
I want to talk about nasty girls and how relational bullying from our early high school days continues in to out adulthood.
I want to talk about my scrapart and the joy that sharing this with others in all my classes brings me.
But today I want to talk about my darling Ben and his latest news.
Finally after nearly two years and lots of procrastination he seems to be finding his path. Two very strong offers of apprenticeships. One in Caloundra. One in Emerald with the mines that will mean leaving home (gulp) in less than a week. Its taken our eldest so much longer to settle on a path. Nearly a year at uni though has not been wasted. He's still full on with his volunteer work and is growing into a good solid strong man who one day will make a good husband and father.
I will be so satisfying to see him settle, and finally be making money of his own.
Love you boys!
Xmum
PS Just heard that Ben missed out on Emerald. Kinda glad as it would have meant going tomorrow and I need more time for goodbyes than that. Still a chance for the caloundra one though. fingers crossed!
Some people are protagonists. we need them like we need heroes. they make us sit up and take notice. they make us angry enough to react and think and talk about whta happened. we need the germaine greer's to fire up our loyalty to our heartfelt causes.
I'm seeing a synchronisity in watching events unfold.
This is my first posting!!
Its all a little overwhelming. Luckily for me I have Jake my wizzkid son to help me steer through this technology.
This is a card I made for a couple of friends who renewed their vows recently. It was the first photo we found during our test drive of the blog and looks lovely on the blog.
More tonight as I get this site customised to suit myself.
ttfn Linda
